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• “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson from "A Return To Love"

Amazing what a trauma unchecked and unprocessed with lead to over time.

Tiger Woods knows. His wife, his fans, the world knows.

What made Tiger fall so far so fast recently?

Trauma.

When we have trauma’s in our lives that we don’t or can’t process fully- the kind that take the wind out of our sails in ways we can’t imagine - when we freeze up, move into emotional fight or flight and stare “deer in the headlights” into the eyes and souls of the people we love and trust the most, and still walk directly into that oncoming car, into what is unthinkable for our character, history and trusted persona, we need only look at what tipped us, when exactly we fell down the rabbit hole.

In Tiger’s case, I believe it was his father Earl’s death, May of 2006 (who had been ill with prostate cancer since 1998) that started his spool to unravel. Such a ripping up and away of the mighty father, friend, teacher, trainer, confidant and business partner, his anchor, that held his lifelong boat in sold waters and turbulent seas of his amazing, structured, practiced and disciplined life from childhood.

“My dad was my best friend and greatest role model, and I will miss him deeply. I’m overwhelmed when I think of all of the great things he accomplished in his life,” Tiger, 30, says. “He was an amazing dad, coach, mentor, soldier, husband and friend.” 

This kind of rupture to a person’s heart, psyche and soul fragments the best of us.

He didn’t turn to drugs or booze, gambling or food, hot cars or a fast life, he moved towards women and affairs of the heart, mind and time. Any of the others would have been the same, it’s just this road he walked on instead of the others.

Who can know the pressures and temptations of the lives of athletes and celebs as Woods? Only those in the same boat. Would you do better? There’s no way to truly know.

No matter what road away from pain or confusion he traveled, is it our business? I say, no.

We are all doing the best we can with what we know and how we can handle this thing called life.

My good thoughts go to Tiger and his wife, his family.

AMERICA, GET A LIFE

I hope America finds something good to talk about sooner than later and leave him alone. He bumped Michael Jackson from the headlines, someone else’s story of confusion and “human-ness” will be next. Is this really what we’re about? Really? Look in the mirror, since you won’t be on the cover of the tabloids. We all have stuff. Some just bigger than others.

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